Bernie
A Response to An SDA Young Adult Addicted to Porn

There’s also a matter of the heart. Or the “inner life” typically people who struggle with porn DON’T have a SEX problem! They have an INTIMACY problem that manifests itself through an unhealthy dependency on porn because it provides a FALSE INTIMACY. That is why I believe it is so critical for you to have friends and have a community of people you are connecting with on a regular basis. It means that you are connecting in an open and authentic way too.
You’re right too, that porn steals your PEACE and that is exactly our enemy’s plan! Where there is no peace, there is no progress or spiritual growth! So as long as porn is causing you to be uneasy or lack peace then you won’t grow spiritually and in fact you will likely digress!
So three things I want you to think and pray over:
1. Surrender your sexuality every day during your personal devotional time. Read, pray, and simply enjoy the presence of God but specifically speak the words, “I surrender my sexuality to you today Lord”
2. Find a group/community you can be a part of IMMEDIATELY and don’t give me the excuse that you are shy! Every Christian needs a community and you’re not the exception. Gather regularly with this group. Share honestly and open your life up to them. It may be that you need to find a Celebrate Recovery www.celebraterecovery.com group somewhere in the area.
3. Read, read , read. Read some good Christian books about the issue of sexual integrity. Every Man’s Battle, The Game Plan, are just a couple I recommend. Also read my book Breaking the Silence.
Courage, Bernie
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